>I imagine many incels psychologically are not trying to commit adultery or fornicate, a lot of them seem to be looking for "love".
In my experience, incels don't want to put in the work, yet, think they deserve to lock down a 10. Fact of the matter is that if you are a 2 or a 3, maybe you should be looking for a female 2 or 3. That or you need to git gud and raise your own quality a bit. Instead of accepting this fact of life, they rail against "assholes" and how women don't want a "true gentleman."
Don't make incels into romantics. They are just lazy and often inept because of their laziness. If they put in some work and lowered their standards, they wouldn't be incels.
Frankly, I have met some chads who have basically no standards, and that's how they score. It also gives you practice around women. Think you are going to meet a woman and do everything right the first time? Ha. You are going to fuck up big time. So if you aren't getting out there, even working on the fugs, you won't be ready when the hot chick shows up.